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Did God Make Marriage For Better For Worse From The Beginning?

Posted By: TheCounselor™          In: Marriage Secrets          681 Views         (Dec 21, 2017)

 Did God Make Marriage For Better For Worse From The Beginning?

Attending a church wedding where the following sentence has not been made by the intending couples “I Take You To Be My Wife Or Husband, And To Hold, From This Day Forward, For Better For Worse, For Richer For Poorer, In Sorrow And In Joy, In Sickness And In Health...” is not a complete wedding. Everyone (the eye witnesses) usually look forward with eagerness when these words usually will be exchanged by the soon-to-be husband and wife. Many within the body of Christ are beginning to take a second look at whether this sentence is biblical, as it does not represent the intention of God for the marriage union.

As a matter of fact, many Pentecostal churches are already removing this phrase from their marriage vows, on the grounds that God who instituted marriage; didn’t make it for better for worse, for richer for poorer; since there was nowhere in the Holy Bible where God recited this to Adam and Eve. So, if God didn’t say these, how did it find its way into our marriage vows? Many have argued that this phrase is one of the tools the devil is using to make most marriages a hell on earth, as an alternative to being heaven on earth. To adequately answer whether marriage is for better for worse, let us go back to the beginning when God introduced marriage to mankind.

Before Adam and Eve were brought together as husband and wife, the bible says God had already blessed them. In Genesis 1: 27-28, it says:

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God he created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

The first argument from the above written scripture is that God, who had already blessed man from the beginning, cannot turn back and wished them a bad marriage. So, the point is if God had blessed man, then man isn’t supposed to experience a worse marriage, be poor in marriage, a sorrowful marriage and, an unhealthy marriage. The blessing automatically transcends into the marriage. The intention of those who coined this kind of marriage vows actually was that they were trying to depict a situation where things may not be rosy in the course of the marriage. Marriage is a long term commitment and therefore, they believed there would be times when the going may be tough and because of this kind of periods, no partner should think of wanting to elope.

I believe marriage vows should be re-coined to reflect the place of faith in going through difficult challenges by both partners, rather than making it look as if marriage is built for the better times and the worse times. Of course, marriage is built for these two periods, but one can choose what he or she wants to experience in marriage. Don’t forget the Scriptures says “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” If you desire a blissful marriage, God can make it happen for you. The question then is: why confess bad for yourself in marriage when actually it can be good all the way? Why confess sickness when Christ had already made you whole (1 Peter 2:24, or confess poverty when Christ had made you rich (2 Corinthians 8:9, or confess sorrow for yourself in marriage when the Joy of the Lord is your strength (Nehemiah 8:10)?

So, in conclusion on this note; when you are about to take your marriage vows, endeavor that the content of the vow reflects faith and positivity, rather than what we have all been made to believe. Nobody prays for his or her partner to be sickness ridden when married, or be poor as well. If we don’t want this to happen to us, then why confess it on the altar of God and before eye witnesses?

The marriage vow can be made to reflect something like this:

“I, *your name* take you *your spouse’s name* as my wife today, according to the word of God, I leave my father and mother and I join myself to you to be your husband. To have and to hold, in plenty, in health, in all that the kingdom of God stands for, and to stand as one in faith with you against poverty, sickness and everything that is not of God. I will love you according to the will of God till death do us part. For this I give my vow.”

The above vow didn’t negate that there will not be challenges in the course of the marriage, but it emphasized the place of faith to go through them by both partners. This is biblical, and I believe it reflect God’s will concerning marriage, rather than confess for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in health and sickness kind of vows that traditional churches have made us believe. Don’t forget that there is power in confession and therefore, mind what you confess to yourselves when taking your marriage vows.

(You can drop your views, comments as to what you believe concerning this subject matter when you are done reading this short piece)

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